Maid of honor, scratch that, Matron of honor...

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Remember when I talked about "my team" as CK referred to it?  Well, its been a little crazy these days with my team.  The team leader, the Maid of honor, got a great deal at a local venue, and saw how much fun I was having planning my wedding (sarcasm) that she caught onto the wedding bug and is getting married...wait for it...on labor day weekend (THIS YEAR), as in less than 3 months.  YIKES! and some of you thought I was crazy planning a wedding in 6 months!  So many things went through my head, dress-going to have to be rush ordered, BM dresses too, invitations need to go out in like a two weeks, the list goes on. 

And then there's me.  It's one thing to be a Bridesmaid, it's another thing to be her maid-of-honor while simultaneously planning my wedding too.  Though there is something fun about getting married at the same time as your BFF.  However, I'm going to need to pull together a shower and bachlorette party like ASAP and due to my festivities, we don't have many weekends left, as this is the duty of the MOH.  Me? Stressed? nooo.  Umm yes. very.  But luckily, things are coming together faster than you would think! 

But, let's me honest, secretly I'm even more excited, this just means more blog material for me :)

GAME PLAN:  plan a beach style wedding for 140 guests in less than 3 months.  She just picked her colors and they will be baby blue and light pink.  ( I will get to wear pink and the others will wear blue) What can I say, my girl knows me well!  Here's a few inspirations on this color scheme....

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And now, we're trying to figure out if the boys with wear tan or light grey? (to continue with the beach style she wants)....

 This site discuss this exact topic Tan vs. Light Grey (source for the pics below)

Tan:

Or Grey...

Funny, how no one seems to be doing black anymore, right?  Remember I said we are doing a dark charcoal, and I think my BM, B, is doing grey, and I'm not sure what my friend G is doing but I think it maybe grey because thats what her girls are wearing, and CK's cousin's boys will be in navy. Hmm..no black?? Is this a new trend ladies?

Needless to say, good thing I didn't print the programs for my wedding yet, because my maid-of-honor, will now have to be referred to as Matron-of-Honor as she is getting married a month before me now :) Something sounds kinda old when you have to say Matron, true?

Does Matron of honor not sound as fabulous as Maid-of-honor?

is she digging for gold?

(kayne west-"I aint saying she a gold digger")

For those of you who don't know Kayne West is a singer/rap/soapbox talker who has strong opinions on certain topics.  He has a song talking about gold-diggers (women who try and leave their husband and take all his money) and half way through the song they chant out WE WANT PRENUP.  After talking to a BFF of mine in a questionable similar situation around this, I decided to research this a little further. 

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A prenuptial (or “prenup”) agreement – also called a premarital agreement – is simply a contract between two parties before they get married. The prenup is designed to allow each party to lay out certain conditions and/or distinguish personal property (assets acquired before the marriage) from community property (assets acquired after the marriage). Prenups can also allow couples to provide for children from a previous marriage and protect assets in the event of death or divorce. (taken from this site)

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OK, so if a prenup is an agreement between two parties, bride and groom, then you would think that each has a say in what goes into the prenup, right?  Does that mean you get two lawyers?  And what if the couple has a child prior to the marriage? Can there be anything in there about custody or future financial education obligations?

The same above site states the following:

3.3 Child Custody

Child custody can never be addressed in a prenuptial agreement – at least not in a manner which will be upheld by any court. The court will always retain jurisdiction to make custody and visitation decisions based upon the best interests of the child.

3.4 Child Support

Similarly, child support cannot be established via a prenup. The support of the child must be based upon the needs of the child at the time of the child support judgment and not at the time of the prenup. A judge will use appropriate guidelines and calculations at the time of the divorce to set a child support obligation.

Good to know, right?

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But, in all seriousness, prenups can be scary but I can see also how they are necessary in some situations. I think its something that should just be left on the kitchen table or on someones purse, but as a contract that two people discuss throughout the process. Does that seem unreasonable?  It's hard though, you are basically discussing what happens when you get divorced, before you are even married?  And if there are children involved that an even bigger issue.  Basically, you need to protect yourself from a lot these days, which is, well, a total wedding buzz-kill.

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If we had a prenup, I would def. have to put a clause in there that I would get to keep everything pink. Hmm, but I'm thinking there wouldn't be any protest against that :)

Did anyone go through this prenup issue while planning their wedding?  If so, ever hear anything about child custody getting roped into it?

My dream job...

After the past two-long-pulling your hair out type of-weeks at work, I have now decided that if I could just blog all day long and share my ideas with other brides, mother of the brides, etc. I would be happily ever after. It's a dream, thats unrealistic, however some of you have emailed me asking for tips or photos about wedding stuff.  Maybe theres a way to use my art and psych degrees in the wedding world??  Hmmm... On a side note, I share with you this...

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The wedding channel has its own awards just for wedding blogs!  There are different sections for different types of blogs, like budget weddings or DIY weddings.  Though my blog is kinda a mix of everything the category I would be under would be REAL BRIDE, I think, because I am, like I said earlier, not doing this for my job or anything like that, YEEEEET. 

If you think I'm fabulous, here's your chance to nominate me  :)

P.S. If you love my blog, you will probably love my friend G's blog, Cross Country Wed, who is my college friend who was my inspiration for all of this blog nonsense.  Check her blog out and nominate her too !!!

I *heart* his hair (but don't tell him that)

Hair. You wouldn't think its that big of a deal but when it comes to events that require lots of pictures, it is.  Ck is notoooorious for shaving his head the day before school pictures or before a homecoming dance.  I have a long talk with him the night before picture day (remember we've been together since we were 14) and we discuss what he is going to wear and practice showing his pearly whites and then he makes some comment about how I'm making a bigger deal then needed.

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Listen, someone told me a long time ago, that you should treat life as if it was a runway -Ck will never understand this.  (though I must confess sometimes I go grocery shopping in my sweatpants on Sundays-but I'm working on that.)  Anyway, we have this discussion about how he is going to act in his photo, rolling eyes and all, and then he takes me home.  When I picked him up in the morning for school, his head is shaved.  Devastation sets in.  Ok, dramatics aside, he looks cute to me no matter what his hair looks like, but I absolutely love his hair long.  It's been years, years, I tell you since it's been like this. 

A year and half ago it was getting long and I played it cool like I didn't care if he shaved it or not (ohh the tricks we have to play) and it worked.  He kept it growing.  Then his GMom said "I love your hair like this.  When you get married this is how you should have your hair".   I kid you not the boy shaved his head that freakin night! Ugggh! 

However, now that he is getting married and has his two favorite ladies pushing for the long, crazy, Italian curls, he almost doesn't really have a choice.  Remember when I talked about his uncle's wedding we went to last weekend?  Well this was the first time we have seen a lot of his family members and the first time they have seen his long hair.  Most of the women smiled as the couldn't help but put their fingers through it and the men just laughed, shaking their heads.  Ck claims he is getting made fun of at work for his hair.  I questioned if it were men or women, because most women aren't really complaining!!! 

Ck search for hair inspirations  of "other fools who have no choice on their hair" and came across this character from one of his favorite movie series that he dragged me to every year...

(Elijah Wood-Lord of the Rings-duh)

And then I got a little concerned that he would flip out when his google search lead him to a character of one of my favorite movie series that I dragged him to every year...

(always team Edward in my heart)

Oh man, he does kinda have the Edward thing going on, and I swear, I never thought of that before!  (you should know the CK hates anything that is trendy or cool, so he would think this is very uncool if someone compared them together so I assured him they looked nothing alike :) ).

Oh yea and on that note, don't tell him he looks like a Gotti boy either, or he will def. shave his head.

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But at last here is a sneak peak at his current hair status from his Uncle's wedding last weekend.  It's getting pretty long.  I know he is going to have to trim it because its pretty long.  Now, just so you know, if I do something he hates, I am threatened with "I don't give a sh*t, I will shave my head if you...." buy another thing pink (is usually the end of that sentence) hahah. (p.s.- notice the pink on us-yay!)

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Anyone have hair restrictions on themselves or the groom's head for their wedding?

The necklaces, my favorite part...

K, readers, flashback to when I shared my inspiration for my bridesmaids, I still love this look....remember it?  Ok, well style me pretty (my favorite blog) just shared a photo link to a shoot of two BFF brides which is awesome since a lot of my friends, including my MOH, are getting married soon (more of that for another day).  Here's the pick of the two brides, notice the necklaces (yes, my favorite detail of my wedding-to-be)...

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Totally love the one on the right, right? Ok, well I'm on the track to creating these awesome necklaces for my girls (spoiler alert for the BMs reading this-sorry!)  I'm sure they already knew that thou. 

The colors are going to look awesome.  Since their dresses are fuchsia (yay!) with a pale pink sash, the necklace is sure to include the fabulous pale pink pearl.  All photos are sourced from Michael's  (could spend hourrrrs and a weeks worth of pay in that place.)

Then twisted in will be the original pearl color because we are doing the vintage vibe, remember...

The next color to be twisted, is the dark greyish colored pearl.  I love this accented color because it will match the boys who will be in their charcoal 3-piece-suit (opps, I will share that later too). I think this added touch will be awesome to bring cohesion to the bridal party , CK's team with my team

and then a little twist of the hot pink glass beads, just to throw a little of hot-pink in there for me, because well, life is better with a little bit of hot pink...

And then there will be a splash of glitz and glam, with these crystal beads, because after all that was a key part of vintage necklaces back in the day.

Lastly, they will be clasped with a pale pink bow, kinda like this look...(nothing that takes away from the actual necklace.)

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If you are worried about if I can pull this off, well then you don't know me.  Its, ok, I wouldn't trust that I could do this either, if I didn't know me.  But dont' worry, They will look fabulous and a perfect part of my vintage-fall-glam wedding.  Can you picture it now??

DIY,(do-it-yourself), craziness or fabulousness? 

I promise I am engaged...dodging the paparazzi

So readers, if you have been following, then you know that I had to give my ring back to the jeweler to design the wedding band. Ck was pretty upset about this, but she promised him it would only be one week, two weeks tops.  His uncle's wedding was 4 weeks a way and my friend G's shower was 3 weeks away and he wanted to wait because he knew we'd be seeing people we hadnt seen in months.  She told him once again don't worry you will have it back, we need to do this now...

It's 5 weeks now and I still don't have my ring...

  

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Sometimes, I feel like J Lo, with people whispering "oh where's the pink ring? Did something happen? Did they call the wedding off??"  No, but thanks for worrying so much about it :) Funny how a piece of jewelry can represent so much right? It's also funny how its kind of like a form of non-verbal communication to other people and you don't even realize it.  (plus, people always like to create more drama then needed)  The latest is that the jeweler is shooting to have the ring back to me next Wednesday (close to 6 weeks later).  Cross you ring fingers for me that I get my ring back sooner than later while I dodge all the gossip mags.

Do you have any Nosey Nellys in your life??

6 degrees of separation from Rush Limbaugh (not Kevin Bacon)

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Has anyone ever heard of the "6 degrees of separation of Kevin Bacon"?  Well, if you google it, you will find numerous sites that discuss it.  Bottom-line, long story short, the concept is about how all of us are connected in a weird way when it comes down to it.  Due to the fact that I deal with a lot of people in my job, I am a firm believer that I seriously find weird connections with everyone.  With this being said, I share with you the latest celebrity wedding brought to you by the celebrity wedding blog found here.

Rush Limbaugh Says "I Do" for 4th Wedding

Ok, 4 weddings is a little much, (no offense to the brides out there).  But yes, he is married for the fourth time this weekend.  Now although he is controversial (which I hope I am not considered) he is also another "C" word that sounds similar, Conservative.  So here's how I am connect with these two love birds who have been dating for the past 6 years. I have three connections so far that I have figured out....

1. My father is very conservative and this has been imposed on me throughout the years.

2. The bride's name is Kathryn.  This is the exact spelling on my name as well.   Kathryn can be spelled many ways, so this is def. a connection.

3.  The last reason, is just spectacular, wait for....So this bride and groom are 26 years apart in age which the bride claims  "that their gap is what makes the romance work" Well their gap is the actual age of me.  26 :) Ha!!

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Anyway, this leads to my discussion of la musica.  The report claims the couple paid 1 million dollars to have Sir Elton John sing at their wedding.  Well, though I love a man that's not afraid to wear pink, I am a little shocked that a conservative groom would choose this option but pretty awesome, minus the pay. 

For our wedding we will  NOT be paying 1 million dollars for the music, despite what CK and my mother may have wanted.  However, though this wasnt one of the details I was in charge of, I believe we will have a string quartet for the ceremony and cocktail hour...

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And then we decided (as far I know) on a DJ for the reception.  I know that there is some controversy in the Wedding world with DJ vs. Band, but we had to be more practical in this sense.( i.e. DJ costs less.)

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No, no we wont be having Lindsay Lohan's ex-girlfriend for our DJ, but I'm sure someone with a crazy personality, as most DJ's are.  CK had one request....no Rap.

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How much of your budget should the music take up, one million dollars worth??